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How To Change Your Behaviors & Negative Thoughts

Thoughts & Negative Behaviors

Do you ever feel stuck in a cycle of negativity? Perhaps you find yourself dwelling on past mistakes, engaging in self-blame, or struggling to break free from unhealthy habits. The good news is, you have the power to change your thoughts and behaviors, and in turn, transform your life. Our thoughts and behaviors have a profound impact on our well-being, shaping our emotional state, our interactions with others, and ultimately, our sense of fulfillment.

However, making and sticking to positive changes can be challenging. Often, deeply ingrained negative thought patterns and unhealthy habits can feel overwhelming to overcome. This blog post will equip you with practical strategies to break free from negativity, cultivate positive thinking, and build the foundation for lasting behavioral change.

Understanding the Root of the Problem: Negative Thought Patterns

Before we dive into strategies for change, it’s crucial to understand the root of the problem: negative thought patterns. These are automatic, often unconscious ways of thinking that can distort our perception of reality and fuel negativity. A common term used to describe these patterns is “cognitive distortions.”

Here are some examples of common cognitive distortions:

  • All-or-Nothing Thinking: Viewing situations in extremes, with only complete success or total failure as options. (e.g., “If I don’t get this promotion, I’m a complete failure.”)
  • Catastrophizing: Assuming the worst possible outcome, regardless of the situation’s actual likelihood. (e.g., “If I give this presentation, I’ll humiliate myself and everyone will think I’m incompetent.”)
  • Mental Filtering: Focusing only on the negative aspects of a situation while ignoring the positive. (e.g., “My boss only mentioned my mistakes in my performance review, so I must be doing a terrible job.”)

These negative thought patterns can significantly impact our emotions and behaviors. For example, catastrophizing about a presentation can lead to anxiety and avoidance, hindering our performance. Mental filtering can fuel feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.

Understanding how these cognitive distortions operate is the first step towards breaking free from their grip.

Strategies for Positive Change

Now that we’ve explored the root of the problem, let’s delve into actionable strategies for transforming your thoughts and behaviors:

  • Challenge Your Thoughts: Cognitive restructuring is a powerful technique for replacing negative thoughts with more realistic and empowering ones. When you catch yourself engaging in a cognitive distortion, question its validity. Ask yourself: “Is this thought truly accurate?” “Is there another way to look at this situation?” By challenging your negative thoughts, you can open yourself up to more balanced and helpful perspectives.
  • The Power of “I” Statements: Communication plays a crucial role in our relationships and well-being. Using “I” statements can help you express your feelings and needs assertively without blaming others. For example, instead of saying, “You always make me feel bad,” try, “I feel hurt when you say things like that.” “I” statements are more likely to foster constructive dialogue and positive change.
  • Mindfulness Practices: Mindfulness meditation is a powerful tool for cultivating self-awareness and reducing stress. By focusing on your breath and present moment experience, you can learn to observe your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Mindfulness can help you identify negative thought patterns in their early stages and choose a more mindful response.
  • Goal Setting and SMART Goals: Setting clear goals is essential for achieving positive change. However, vague and overwhelming goals are more likely to lead to discouragement. Setting SMART goals, which are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound, increases your chances of success. For example, instead of a vague goal like “be healthier,” a SMART goal might be “exercise for 30 minutes three times a week for the next month.”
  • Celebrate Small Wins: Change takes time and effort. Don’t wait until you reach your ultimate goal to celebrate your progress. Acknowledge and reward yourself for achieving smaller milestones along the way. This will help you stay motivated and maintain momentum throughout your journey.

Building a Support System

While self-help strategies can be incredibly empowering, sometimes additional support is necessary. A therapist can be your valuable partner in navigating the process of changing your thoughts and behaviors. Here’s where Greater Boston Behavioral Health (GBBH) can play a vital role in your journey. GBBH is a leading provider of mental health therapy services in Boston. Our team of experienced and compassionate therapists offers a wide range of services, including individual therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and group therapy sessions.

  • Individual Therapy: Individual therapy provides a safe space for you to explore your thoughts, feelings, and challenges in depth. Your therapist will work collaboratively with you to develop personalized strategies for overcoming negative thought patterns and achieving your goals.
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT is a form of therapy that has been proven effective in helping individuals change negative thinking patterns and develop healthier coping mechanisms. GBBH therapists are trained in CBT and can teach you skills to challenge your negative thoughts, manage stress, and build resilience.
  • Group Therapy: Group therapy sessions can provide a valuable sense of connection and support. In a group setting, you can learn from the experiences of others, share your challenges, and receive encouragement from peers who are also working towards positive change.


Transforming your thoughts and behaviors is a journey, not a destination. There will be setbacks along the way, but with self-compassion, perseverance, and the right support system, you can achieve lasting change. Remember, you have the power to cultivate a more positive mindset and build healthy habits that contribute to your overall well-being.

Don’t wait to take charge of your mental and emotional well-being. Contact GBBH today for a free consultation and explore how our therapy services can support you on your journey towards positive change. You deserve to feel empowered and in control of your thoughts and behaviors.

FAQs on Thoughts and Behaviors

Q. I can’t seem to stop negative thoughts. How can I challenge them more effectively?

It takes practice to identify and challenge negative thoughts. Keep a journal to track your thoughts and emotions. When you notice a negative pattern, write it down and ask yourself questions like: “Is this thought helpful?” “Is there evidence to support it?” Replace the negative thought with a more realistic and empowering statement.

Q. I struggle with expressing myself assertively. How can “I” statements help?

“I” statements focus on how a situation makes you feel, rather than blaming the other person. By using “I” statements, you can communicate your needs and boundaries clearly without putting the other person on the defensive.

Q. I’m new to meditation. What are some tips for getting started?

There are many free guided meditations available online or through apps. Start with short sessions, just 5-10 minutes, and gradually increase the duration as you become more comfortable. Find a quiet place where you can sit comfortably and focus on your breath. Don’t worry if your mind wanders; simply gently bring your attention back to your breath.

Q. What if I don’t have time for therapy?

While therapy can be incredibly beneficial, there are self-help strategies you can incorporate like journaling, cognitive restructuring exercises, or mindfulness practices. Even small changes can make a significant difference.

Q. I’m hesitant to try therapy. What can I expect at GBBH?

Our therapists at GBBH provide a safe and supportive environment for you to explore your challenges. The first session will involve getting to know you and your goals for therapy. We offer a variety of therapy modalities to find the best fit for your individual needs. Contact us today for free consultation